I am pleased to announce that my newest book, Soul of My Voice, is now available at Lulu.com. Amazon.com and BarnesandNoble.com. This text was written as a workbook/journal to accompany my first book, Soul of Voice published in 2016. However, Soul of My Voice is just as effective as a stand alone book, chuck full of essays, poems, quotes, photos, writing prompts and mandalas. Happy reading (and writing, and coloring, etc.)!!
Recently a friend of my son’s passed through our town after spending four months traveling alone on the Pacific Coast Trail. He began his adventure in Mexico and still had all of the states of Oregon and Washington to travel before his mission would be accomplished. I invited him over for dinner and we had a deep and serious conversation about the hardships and values of spending time alone with oneself, particularly in wilderness. He admitted that it was not for everyone. And that even now and then at the beginning of his hike he wondered if it was even for him. But after he finally passed through the threshold of loneliness, something soulful happened to him, opening him up to the significance of his initiatory experience which could only have occurred had he not become accustomed to solitude.
Most of us will never have the opportunity to give ourselves over to a solitary nine month hike, nor perhaps should we. But to find a place of soulfulness, a sanctuary of solitude in our busy lives is more valuable than I think we can imagine. Nearly every great teacher, thinker and artist has gone through some kind of initiatory experience where like Jacob they have had to wrestle with their own angel. Or demon. (Or Daimon, as James Hillman puts it.) Whatever the dragon is that protects them from facing the ecstasy and the terror of their own soul.
A time of solitude I think is especially important to a young adult when they are looking toward discovering who they are, what their life’s purpose is all about, and what kind of person they hope to spend the rest of their life with. But the fear of loneliness is always their lurking in the shadows. So distraction becomes the name of the game—video games, TV, computer surfing, all nighters at bars—you name it.
I think as a culture we all need to take time out from our busy lives from time to time and give ourselves a sanctuary where our souls can be nourished and if needed, be made whole. Perhaps it may be taking up some creative activity, walking in nature, or even gardening. For my step-father it was tinkering in the garage. Whatever one chooses, it needs to be away from one’s phone, computer, family and neighbor. It needs to be in a treasured place where sanctuary is honored and aloneness tantamount. We need it as individuals, as a culture. We need it as inhabitants of this glorious interdependent planet.
I am not one to post anything political on either of my website blogs or Facebook accounts, but with all the anger and frustration bubbling up over this upcoming election, I cannot help but take a step back and look at how much has been accomplished in just the last ten years with regard to who can now realistically become President of this beautiful country. I consider myself and my children lucky to be living at a time when the best person for the job can actually have the job, should the popular and electoral vote prove them electable.
Perhaps for some people this is no big deal, but for me it is nothing short of miraculous. What a privilege to know that my cousins, nieces and nephews, should they desire a life of political service, achieve the highest office possible—and that in spite of their skin color or gender. And hopefully someday soon, their sexual identity. We all deserve to speak the truth of our voice! And especially if we are called to be President of the United States of America!!
I am excited to announce the recent publication of my book, Soul of Voice, which is now available in print as well as for electronic readers. Many of you have asked what it is I do in my private practice, and this book culminates my system as well as its application in a concise yet enriching manner. I plan to keep you posted when artists and other voice practitioners are utilizing my book and / or its methodology.
The hot topic in the news (again) is that of domestic abuse. No matter how much attention this topic is given or how much it is discussed in the media, it still hovers over us like a dark cloud of cultural malaise. Although I realize it is not gender specific, more often than not it is our women and girls who are the victims of the physical violence we too often see.
As an expressive voice specialist, I am curious how that kind of abuse specifically affects the voice and its ability to express the truth of a person’s situation. What I have discovered is that domestic abuse is not only fear based but likewise saturated in shame. It has been my experience working with women who are or have been victims of domestic abuse that they tend to vocally express themselves either by clamming up, by defending their perpetrator, or by becoming a “Chatty Cathy”—talking about nothing and everything at the same time. Unfortunately, all of these choices are a silencing of the self.
When one silences themselves, they are denying the very truth of their personhood. Often they feel so diminished, that they can take on the blame of another person’s abuse because they feel somehow they deserve it. For these women a black eye often feels like an affirmation of the perpetrator’s love for them. “He wouldn’t hit me if he didn’t love me enough to set me straight” is in their thinking.
By creating a safe atmosphere for these women and by opening up their voices, the possibility of them becoming strong enough to deal truthfully with their abuse becomes more and more evident. They begin to courageously speak out, to see the abuse for what it truly is, and begin to find once again the truth of who they are—confident, strong and worthy women who do not deserve the abuse they are receiving.
We need to keep this topic in the news. As we speak openly about domestic abuse, we offer those who are or have been abused to take the appropriate steps to end their distress by likewise speaking openly. It is our birthright to have our vocal expression be a reflection of who we know ourselves to be and not be squelched or silenced by those who would reign terror over us.