Category Archives: Speak Up

The Dreaded Cold Call

I don’t think there’s anything I hate more than making cold calls. And yet it’s responsibility of every business owner to do just that. What it actually means is presenting myself through my voice alone. After all, the person on the other end of the phone line has no idea how nice my hair looks, how perfect my makeup is, and what a cute outfit I have on. I suppose that’s the best thing about cold calls – you can even make the many her yoga pants or pajamas should you desire.

It’s also asking for people whom you don’t know to put their trust in you and/or your product, which means one had better project an air of self-confidence or they’re doomed. Yet more importantly, at least in my experience, I also want the person at the end of the line to get a fairly good idea about who I am as a human being. I want them to hear in my voice my capacity to be kind, easy to work with, professional but not rigid, and fun to be around.

I know that I’m all those things but sometimes my nerves take over and when they do, I can sound like a complete idiot. Not useful when I’m trying to make a deal! So I do what I’ve always encouraged my children to do and that’s rehearse. I practice what I’m going to say; I time it and then slow the speech down so that I don’t sound as if I’m in a rush but rather glad to take the time to call that specific potential client.

I also practice creative visualization. I put my imagination to work by seeing myself calm, easily accessible, positive, and friendly. I also see in my mind’s eye the person on the other end of the phone line enjoying our conversation, wanting to know more about whom I am and what it is I do, and agreeing that this cold call is the best thing that could’ve happened to them so far that day!

And, of course, by the time I’ve made two or three cold calls, I’m usually on a roll. The secret to making cold calls is the more you make, the more you want to make. And the more you want to make cold calls, the more business you will generate.

Soul of My Voice

I am pleased to announce that my newest book, Soul of My Voice, is now available at and This text was written as a workbook/journal to accompany my first book, Soul of Voice published in 2016. However, Soul of My Voice is just as effective as a stand alone book, chuck full of essays, poems, quotes, photos, writing prompts and mandalas. Happy reading (and writing, and coloring, etc.)!!

Giving Thanks

“Life without thankfulness is devoid of love and passion. Hope without thankfulness is lacking in fine perception. Faith without thankfulness lacks strength and fortitude. Every virtue divorced from thankfulness is maimed and limps along the spiritual road.”
― John Henry Jowett


Thankfulness has a much different connotation to me than the work gratitude. When one is in the state of being grateful, they are attuning their soul to their innermost thoughts. It is a private, inward experience. A way of Being—analytical and reflective. However, thankfulness or being thankful means that action in the present is being taken. One is purposefully thanking Providence, God or the Universe for any number of things that a person is glad for or joyful about. A person may also be thanking others for their words and services—perhaps their very being.

“Joy is thankfulness, and when we are joyful, that is the best expression of thanks we can offer…” ― Thaddeus of VitovnicaOur Thoughts Determine Our Lives: The Life and Teachings of Elder Thaddeus of Vitovnica

Thankfulness is a sign something or someone has brought us joy—that our world is that much happier of a place to be in. In other words, we are happier people due to the fact that we have something or someone we are grateful for. Yet, true happiness comes in the act of verbalizing or demonstrating our thankfulness in meaningful ways.

So … it seems fairly clear to me …

If you want to be happy and have a joy-filled life, be grateful for your blessings.

But more importantly, speak out your thankfulness in both word and deed. Make clear to the Infinite Presence as well as those who cross your path that you are thankful for who they are and what they do!


You Can Be President, And So Can YOU!

I am not one to post anything political on either of my website blogs or Facebook accounts, but with all the anger and frustration bubbling up over this upcoming election, I cannot help but take a step back and look at how much has been accomplished in just the last ten years with regard to who can now realistically become President of this beautiful country. I consider myself and my children lucky to be living at a time when the best person for the job can actually have the job, should the popular and electoral vote prove them electable.
Perhaps for some people this is no big deal, but for me it is nothing short of miraculous. What a privilege to know that my cousins, nieces and nephews, should they desire a life of political service, achieve the highest office possible—and that in spite of their skin color or gender. And hopefully someday soon, their sexual identity. We all deserve to speak the truth of our voice! And especially if we are called to be President of the United States of America!!

What Makes a Person a Storyteller?

grandma-storytellingAs an actress, teacher, and life coach I have encountered many excellent storytellers who perform a variety of stories which can be categorized as personal biographical, family, cultural, and fantastical. On stage these stories are interpretive with the exception of improvisational theatre.  Even detailing the remembered events of a dream takes the form of story and evokes storytelling. No matter the uniqueness of each story, they all come from the desire of the storyteller to convey something of import to him or herself. The story is as much about conveying facts as it is about conveying feeling. If I’m now mistaken, it is also about moving the listener to laughter, tears or at the very least to a place of transformation.

What draws a person to want to be a storyteller in the first place? Obviously, an over active imagination, but also a deep need or craving for self expression, and a desire to touch people’s hearts and minds. I have also noticed that for many people the desire to story tell comes from a yearning to give voice to their hidden hopes, dreams, and desires, as well as their demons.

EngStoryteller.001Storytelling can also be a way to give voice to one’s internal negative voices whose purpose always seems to want to either make one fearful or ashamed. When a storyteller gives voice to one of these punitive thoughts, they tend to lose power, especially if one can talk back to them in a manner that demonstrates the person has more power than what Sibyl Chavis calls “the chief negativity officer.”

For example, if one of my internal voices is “no one will listen to you because you are too old,” then if I answer back something like: “What do you mean too old? How old is too old? And who are you to tell me what is too old or too young or whatever your deal is? I am just the right age for whatever I intend to master, to accomplish, to set my mind to.” And so on.

Lakota_storytellerInterestingly enough, it has been my experience that those of us who are plagued by these nonstop internal voices end up becoming the best storytellers of all. It is as if the thoughts that emerge want their place to be heard, either in written or oral form. And if they are not expressed and answered to, they merely tend to rattle around and around in our heads driving us to anxiety or depression. What I am getting at is each of us has the power to be the storyteller of our own life. We merely have to be aware of how the story manifests and then how we will give it voice.